The Healing Place
The Healing Place
There’s a place I found with in my tears, a place that was hard for me to endure at first. A place I have wondered if I would ever leave. A place I visit frequently, but when I do pick up my head from this place, I would like to be able to tell other women it is ok to be in this place – this place of “Healing”.
A place we may never leave as strong resilient women. A place we are refined, because in this safe space, sure our tears may seem heavy but in them and through them we are being gracefully broken so that an old part of us can fall and a new part of us can rise. We do not have to be fearful or scared of this process. Instead let us be assured that throughout life we will find ourselves in this safe place of healing whether it is due to old trauma (old wounds) or the inevitable that we will go on to face new struggles, or at times what feels like the same battles again. It’s here instead that we learn who we are becoming while we are waiting is much more important than who were waiting to become.
I wasn’t always this woman. Before this it felt like I was always missing the mark, one emotionally driven decision after another, missed opportunity after missed opportunity, one bad relationship after another chasing an adrenaline rush that always ended in a disaster but never seemed to be enough to stop me. It was simple things like authority that were always a hurdle for me, and I envied how others were so disciplined and focused on their walk. The longer I lived life, the version of me I longed to be seemed so far out of my view, and the more mistakes and the more trauma I endured the farther it seemed from my grasp. But in this place a new self-disciplined me began to emerge, and no longer was I just a Spectator, I had become a active participant in my healing process.
It’s difficult to share the exact way I found this place, a place where we are all capable of finding. A place where my strength is made perfect in my weakens and instead of being ashamed, I can gladly rest in a power of something bigger than me. Through intentional prayer I began to quiet the chaos in my mind and focus on learning the skills I needed to excel in my purpose. An one day at I time I planted the seeds with a new mindset, for new seasons in my life. As I saw the progress in me, I began to become inspired to add in reading and studying both spiritual scripture & books on various topics. Through a women support group I began to surround myself with other women who were walking in the same healing and belief process as me. I found accountability and even in differences I ultimately found a Sisterhood. I learned in this place to see each woman as their own light when they walk in a room, so that I could extend kindness knowing I am not the only one in a place of healing. In walking in this light and mindset not only was my purpose beyond what I could imagine or conceive but it had the ability to impact others for the better good.
I have to say that the tools I obtained through out this process were not just concepts like the ability to control one’s emotions, physical health, good eating habits, or self-help knowledge on building relationships, but it was also spiritual tools. An armor and grace from something “greater than me.” I want to utilize as much as I can …” bigger than me and higher power,” as I want to emphasize that religion is not the concept here…it’s the idea of a humble place .. a loving place…. a forgiving place, and a place where we are willing to receive and participate in renewing who we are in something bigger than ourselves, and for me I found this spiritual place with God.
In this place I never arrive at perfection, and I have never walked so far that I don’t have to come back to this place. I call it the basics for me. A place where I surrender enough of me that I can be molded into something new. A place where the things I have been through don’t grow, and I give them to something bigger than me, where I can walk in the authority that my battles have already been won. I have walked even in fear, I walked in even in self-doubt, I walked even in embarrassment, I have walked even when I have not felt at all qualified… these things have been but passing emotions…I have had to take these thoughts captive in my walk knowing that my purpose is bigger than myself doubt.
I have stayed in this place longer and more frequently through the last four years… and through a process what’s drowned me inside of my tears, I instead began to receive clarity and the tools to maneuver in my purpose as a woman, not just as a mother, a daughter, a survivor, I realized I was much more than just those titles; “we are much more than just those titles.” We are beautiful divine creations, resilient, and highly intelligent each of us having our own specific purposes and it is when we take reign of our blessings, our gifts, our own personal valuable talents & attributes and share them with others not just for our own personal gain but to contribute to making a positive imprint on the world…that is when we truly begin to feel like we are part of something bigger (our purpose)
Below is a list of different habits & practices I began to learn and grow in along my journey. You may find the tips below don’t fit you, please understand they are merely tips that you can replace with whatever best fits you in your healing place & process in whatever season you find yourself in.
- Intentional prayer life, if possible fellowship, and build relationships with other women who will pray for you instead of gossip about you
- Through God I received Discernment – “to distinguish, to separate out by diligent search, to examine.” A discerning mind demonstrates wisdom and insight that go beyond what is seen and heard
- Reading, I began to dig into my bible through “Growth Work”. This came into my life when I joined a women’s support group, and our common ground was our spiritual beliefs. Here I am accountable to turn in weekly journaling/reading that has drawn me into my word & in my word I have grew a relationship with my higher power being “God.”
- The Amplified Study Bible, Hardcover
- The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Author: Eckart Tolle
- How to Win Friends & Influence People Author: Dale Carnegie
- Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win Author: Joko Wilnick
- They Psychology of Money Author:Morgan Housel
My Book list Can Go on & Be sure to look for a updated booklist on website
- Christian Speakers/Motivational speakers
- Eric Thomas (Christian Motivational Speaker)
- Sarah Jake Roberts (Potters House)
- Keion Henderson (Light House Church online)
- T.D jakes ( Potters House)
- Journaling, this is still hard for me to find time for, but I realized for me it was important to write & organize my thoughts.
- Animal Rescue, Loving and Saving dogs become healing to me. A number of studies have shown that when dogs and humans interact with each other in a positive way (for example cuddling) both partners exhibit a surge in oxytocin, a hormone which has been linked to positive emotional states
- When I began to grow utilizing the tools I was gaining, is when I could begin to be able to take care of my body through healthy eating habits & exercise. I want to say that it all goes together, but it very important to make time for your spiritual and mental healing, and then learn how to time manage adding in other things.
